At some point in their relationship, couples often find themselves struggling with anger and shock, despair and sadness. Some are newlyweds, and can’t understand how they have plummeted from the heights of love and glory into hopelessness and conflict. Others have been together for many years, and though they have been drifting along, their days of wine and roses are a dim memory. Even if life at home is relatively peaceful, couples lament that they have “nothing in common anymore.” And so they lead a disappointed or angry co-existence, each with their own friends and interests, or an arrangement they endure for the sake of the children.
The aim of couples therapy is to increase a better understanding of how problems affect the relationship. If you are experiencing difficulty in your relationship and would like to understand why this has happened, couples therapy gives partners the opportunity to talk and listen to one another openly and effectively. It opens up the opportunity to explore the dynamic of your relationship, and how unfinished issues from the past may be influencing the present.
When problems occur in a relationship, communication can shut down and with it, the best hope of finding a solution. With a compassionate, non-judgemental facilitator present, partners are often able to do this by discussing issues or problems that may have previously felt too difficult or unsafe.